Have you ever tried answering the question, “what do you think makes a person beautiful”?
Beauty is a never-ending state of falling in love.
With yourself. With others. With the world.
When we fall in love (or lust) consider what happens. Our senses heighten, we feel more beautiful and erotically charged.
It’s the feeling that we have when we are passionately working on a task. Where, for as long as we are in that state of flow, we enter a state that makes us feel magnetic, playful and sensual.
And that’s what draws people. Our intentions and level of consciousness.
So the first step for any woman who searches for beauty is to dig for her own virtues. To look at everything inside her that stands out. This may be your sexy swaying hips, cute freckles or full lips. It can also be your laugh, your passion, or intriguing depth. All these qualities can be owned and exaggerated for a mesmerizing effect.
Real beauty happens when we ‘altar’ ourselves. When we worship and highlight our best qualities.
If you love your eyes, you can use colors that complement its color. If you have long legs, then you can wear clothes that complement that such as short skirts or heels.
The feminine in us longs to exaggerate and emphasize itself. Sometimes this is through an eye-catching appearance. By being in command of her sexuality she brings her clothes to life.
The radiance and grace of someone comfortable with her sexuality have a powerful effect on others. She knows that her clothes reflect who she is. So she pays careful attention to her wardrobe. She becomes so unified with the clothes that you forget what she is wearing.
Her sexuality penetrates her every breath and step. Everything about her reflects her inner beauty and comfort in expressing her individuality and uniqueness.
Her serenity and lovingness radiate out into everything without her knowing simply because that’s who she is. Her own perceived prettiness and perfection allows her to have the awareness of the beauty and sacredness in all of life. She sees the divinity in everything and realizes that this is the invisible power that is the source of existence.
And this is the difference between embodying beauty and being beautiful.
A woman who embodies beauty is someone who is comfortable being herself and exaggerates that through her appearance. Just by her presence, you know that she has beauty because she’s radiating that light into the world.
Think of it as a disco ball. There’s a strong light that the ball exaggerates. Whereas a more naturally beautiful woman may have a prettier disco ball, because the light inside is dimer, she can’t shine as much and so won’t attract as much attention.
We possess beauty when we are true to own being. As the Greek Philosopher Plotinus once said, “…knowing ourselves, we are beautiful; in self-ignorance, we are ugly.”
In order to find this inner beauty, one must “withdraw into yourself and look; and if you do not find yourself beautiful as yet, do as does the sculptor of a statue […] cut away all that is excessive, straighten all that is crooked, bring light to all that is shadowed. […] [D]o not cease until there shall shine out on you the Godlike Splendour of Beauty; until you see temperance surely established in the stainless shrine”, said Plotinus.
Once you can trust and accept yourself, you can open yourself ever more to others and the world. Like a beautiful flower, opening to the sun, eager to offer its hidden gift to everyone.
Whether that gift is your radiance, your intelligence, presence, physical look, your smile, your love. Whether she is offering the world, she has cherished within herself and wants the rest of the world to cherish it too.
Beauty expresses itself in different ways in different places throughout different time periods. Even though that which holds beauty changes, the essence of beauty does not. Only the form that it is seen does.
Author Steve Maraboli once said that “there is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”
What matter is not all those opinions from others, but your own. You are beautiful no matter what believes you have about yourself. You don’t need to anything because all the beauty you need is already inside you. No one else may see that same beauty that you do, but their opinion doesn’t affect you because you are aware and accept your own beauty.
There is only one you. So when you appeal to universal standards of beauty, you do the opposite. You lose yourself, your uniqueness by neglecting the very things that make you unique.
Like any product, the more of it floods the market, the more its value goes down.
So go out and show the world you are. Because why be a copy when you can be an original.
Credit: Marcelo S.L. Fernandes