I'm in a long distance relationship, I'm forced to communicate in ways that strictly involve talking, lots and lots of talking. Any form of sexual interactions is done by phone. We even have phone sex.\n\n\n\nWith the North Atlantic Ocean between the two of us, and considering the absurd sex drive we both have, it's not like any of us could go for months without a few sexy conversations.\n\n\n\nI engage in phone sex once, twice, sometimes three times a week with my partner. To make it more sexual we do it on video call. \n\n\n\nYou start by sexting each other, it keeps you in "that" mood. Imagine saying the dirty words you're texting back and forth out loud. that is a whole new level of intimacy. It's so fun when you get a hang of it.\n\n\n\nPhone sex isn't for long distance relationships only. Your partner can be five junctions away, you can still use it as a great way to keep things spicy and lively in your sex life. \n\n\n\nHOW TO BE A PRO AT PHONE SEX\n\n\n\n1. MAKE A DATE\n\n\n\nPlanning is everything. Just imagine making out and people constantly knocking on your door. Yeah, it sucks. Same thing applies to phone sex. Imagine being disturbed with calls whiles in the act on phone. \n\n\n\n\n\nChoose a time when you know there will be little or no calls, or better still turn off the ability to get any other incoming calls. \n\n\n\n2. GET SEXY\n\n\n\nIf you feel sexy in your silk see through pyjamas, or your lacy bra, or which ever clothing that makes the situation sexy for you, that's your jam. \n\n\n\n3. CHOOSE A SETTING\n\n\n\nBe it on the bed, or in a sofa in the living room, or the the bath-tub, just like having sex physically, choose the setting that sets you in the mood. When you tell your partner where you are and what you're doing, what do you want that information to convey? \n\n\n\nREAD ALSO - What I Did To My Best Friend\u2019s Boyfriend\n\n\n\n4. RELAX\n\n\n\nRelax, just relax. Like having sex physical, too much anticipations fucks up the show. This is about fun; it's not rocket science. Do not go worrying about what you may say or not say. You're setting yourself up for a poor performance.\n\n\n\n Image: Rostislav Sedlacek\/Fotolia \n\n\n\n 5. EASE INTO IT\n\n\n\nPhone sex is not something you do quickly. It's not a quickie. Just like physical sex, you have to foreplay. If you were touching your partner, it would have been easy. But you're using words this time. \u201cWhat are you wearing?\u201d is the perfect ice breaker.\n\n\n\n6. TEASE\n\n\n\n \u201cIf I were there, I\u2019d rip off your panty and gently kiss you between your thighs, spread open your legs and use my tongue to tease your clit.\u201d The worst part is you're not there, but this increases the desire factor.\n\n\n\n7. TOUCH YOURSELF \n\n\n\nDo not be shy about this, even if you dislike masturbating. Are you touching your nipples? Are they hard? Are you wet? Are you hard? Tell your partner everything. \n\n\n\n8. USE \u201cDIRTY\u201d WORDS\n\n\n\nWhen you\u2019re talking dirty, you should use dirty words. No one wants to be told, \u201cI really want you to put your penis in my vagina.\u201d It's lacking, raw and has no sauce.\n\n\n\n9. LET YOUR MIND GO WILD\n\n\n\nYou shouldn't be shy to tell your partner how turned on you are and what you're doing to your bodies. Feel your heart pound and breathing intensify as you go for it.\n\n\n\n10. COME!\n\n\n\nDon't be lame, i mean orgasm! Yes, do it! You didn't put in all that effort to have a boring ending. Just let it happen. It doesn't matter if you do not cum at the same time. \n\n\n\nHave you tried phone sex before? Share your experience with us.\n\n\n\nIf you have a story you want to share with AFROSAGES and the world, please do hit us up on FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM AND TWITTER.