They say, when you bounce a ball against a wall, it comes back to you. I got served a dose of my medicine. Karma hit me back real hard.\n\n\n\nA couple years ago, a girl I knew pretty well admitted to me that he had a crush on me. More or less, she was really into me and wanted to get into a relationship.\n\n\n\nI had no idea but I felt incredibly guilty and I felt like I couldn\u2019t tell her no. I knew that I didn\u2019t like her back, but I also felt horrible saying \u201cI know I don\u2019t like you and never will.\u201d So I told her \u201cI don\u2019t know, but I don\u2019t want you to get your hopes up because x and y\u201d.\n\n\n\nShe accepted it, and after that happened, we continued to hang out and I assumed that she was okay with it because, well, she was initiating it and we got along really well.\n\n\n\nKarma Hit Me Back\n\n\n\nI didn\u2019t realize that you can\u2019t get over someone you see constantly.\n\n\n\nI didn\u2019t realize that the \u201cI don\u2019t know\u201d I gave her was something she clung onto, desperately, hoping I\u2019d change my answer one day.\n\n\n\nI didn\u2019t know any of these things until the exact same thing happened to me a year later.\n\n\n\nI met a girl, got infatuated, admitted my feelings, and that familiar response which I gave that girl was now being delivered to me, in that same exact tone, with those same exact sad eyes which said \u201cI can\u2019t say no to you, I don\u2019t want to hurt you, but I will never like you\u201d.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nAnd because I had been the one who delivered that line a year prior, I knew that \u201cI don\u2019t know\u201d meant \u201cno\u201d, but it hurt nonetheless. I still thought it could be different this time.\n\n\n\nSo karma hit me back real hard.\n\n\n\nAnd I do think I deserved that heartbreak.\n\n\n\nBecause if you reject someone whom you respect, whom you actually like as a person, it has also become part of your responsibility to make the other person feel comfortable and be able to move on.\n\n\n\nBecause it might simply be too hard for the other person. Because in the moment, all they want is to see you and make you change your already made-up mind.\n\n\n\nSo please, reject someone. Do not say \u201cI don\u2019t know\u201d if you do.\n\n\n\nAnd do not lead them on after.\n\n\n\nI have learned my mistake.\n\n\n\nRead also;1 Getting Friend-zoned Is Not A Rejection2 My Friends With Benefits Relationships3 Friendship Is What Brings Richness To Life4 Becoming Friends After A Breakup \u2013 Option or Solution?5 What Does A Girl Really Want In A Guy?\n\n\n\nIf you have a story you want to share with AFROSAGES and the world, please do hit us up on FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM AND TWITTER.