People do due diligence for business deals but fail to apply the same level of rigor to friendship or relationships, where character matters more. \n\n\n\nGet the facts, give enough time to test for character, form true friendship to help modulate one another and to build trust. \n\n\n\nI have come to the sad conclusion that our wiring in Ghana de-emphasize friendship, even in relationships. We don't rate it at all. Thus, our path in life is extremely hard. \n\n\n\nWe produce malformed human beings who only build one aspect of their lives - the functional, which encompasses work, sex and societal status. We live malnourished emotional and spiritual lives. \n\n\n\nWe don't even form friendship with God. It's a transactional relationship predicated on sin and want. God rarely talks to or guides us. There is no intimacy or vulnerability. No quality or vibrancy. No light or joy.\n\n\n\nREAD ALSO - The Eros of Friendship\n\n\n\nFriendship is what brings richness to life. It is what makes each day soft. It gives you something to look forward to beyond the daily grind. It is a support and relationship that completely acknowledges all of you, not the cosmetic parts. It values everything you bring. \n\n\n\nEverything becomes more enhanced - whether pedantic living or luxurious getaways. You suddenly have a treasure trove of resources for life and business. The feeling of "aloneness" in a cruel world diminishes. You are part of a tribe. You finally matter. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nPeople who meet members of the opposite sex and immediately think sex or romance are playing out a script - one of dangerous premature liaisons with strangers. They are gambling with their lives, as if it had no value. \n\n\n\nThey are bowing to societal expectations of speed. They have little self-awareness and scant self-confidence. They fish in shallow waters for deep people will never be rushed into superficiality - they have too much to lose. \n\n\n\nHow we have relegated friendship to an ignominious place called "friend zone". We forget that while sex is common and can be bought, friendship is not for sale and has benefits in and of itself. \n\n\n\nREAD ALSO - I Went Back To My Ex Girlfriend After We Broke Up\n\n\n\nThere are things that are so rare in a country like ours - wisdom, loyalty, integrity, kindness - that it amazes me how we trade them for what is on every street corner - sex.