Personally speaking, becoming friends after a breakup is rare especially when your relation was a serious one and you people shared a very special bond. Here\u2019s my story:\n\n\n\nMy first relation was more of an accident (funny story). I don\u2019t think either of us really had serious feelings. We just got into a relation and unsurprisingly, I had to convey to her within two weeks that it won\u2019t work out. I felt awful hearing her cry, but years later she would realize that it was a good decision.\n\n\n\nOut of guilt, I kept going back to her to apologize to make sure she has forgiven me for breaking up. And she did when she realized I had no ill-intentions. And so the process of being friends and talking again never felt all that difficult.\n\n\n\nTwo years later, when I got into my first serious relation, it was with my best friend. The only time I had met my first girl-friend, I had made sure she met my best friend too, so that they could be friends. But my best friend didn\u2019t seem happy about it. I knew years later that she had feelings even then, which is why she wasn\u2019t okay with me being in a relation with someone else.\n\n\n\nAfter years of being in a relation with her, long distance finally had its say. The last line I remember from her after trying for months to get her back was \u201cI\u2019m tired of long-distance, tired of waiting and crying and I don\u2019t think I love you anymore\u201d. And it was over, just like that.\n\n\n\nBecoming Friends After A Breakup\n\n\n\nI had tried being friends with her, but that idea always sounded stupid even to me. I guess I had said that hoping I\u2019ll get her back. We both were wrong at some time, we both blamed each other. It was hard to accept that people can get over you, that years of love can be over. But I\u2019m sure she must have tried from her side, and in the end, she chose her happiness, or I should say she chose not to hurt herself over my happiness. Even though that hurt a lot, I shouldn\u2019t blame her for that.\n\n\n\nNow I feel that it wasn\u2019t just us, the situation was to be blamed too, which we didn\u2019t handle well enough. Being friends at that time wouldn\u2019t have helped because none of us were mature enough to handle it.\u00a0When there is love, even the idea of being friends sounds stupid, frustrating and at times fills the other person with anger. Because you expect yourself to mean more to them than just a friend.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nBoth the people being nice doesn\u2019t mean everything will go well. Becoming friends after a breakup is an option but not a solution. So if you think you can\u2019t handle being friends, don\u2019t force yourself. You will only end up hurting yourself and prolonging the inevitable. \n\n\n\nRead also;1 Getting Friend-zoned Is Not A Rejection2 My Friends With Benefits Relationships3 Friendship Is What Brings Richness To Life\n\n\n\n If you have a story you want to share with AFROSAGES and the world, please do hit us up on FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM AND TWITTER.