I think i have to bring the bring the toxic masculinity content back.
First and golden rule.
Always suffer in silence, nobody cares about your plight. They tell you they do but they don’t. Never let them see you cry. Smile when you’re bleeding. Man up! Mental toughness.
We are all getting too soft. Now everyone wants to bare it all and write a tell it all. Leave that stuff for women. Women are not built to bottle stuff up, action-wise or words. As a man that’s exactly how you’re built. Talk to your true friends or your father. The internet doesn’t have to know your business.
You are built to fix. Fixers don’t crumble. You’re a fixer, not a crumbler. Leave all that childish stuff for children and all that crying stuff for women. When a man cries. He cries in the arms of the woman he loves (when she’s also not suffering, if she’s suffering, he cries alone).
Then right after that, tells and portrays to the world that it is okay, that you’re going to fix it and gets to it. Men cry, men have always cried. We are humans. We just don’t do it in a way that ever puts the safety of those we love in doubt.
Your loved ones should never have the fear that you’re incapable of keeping them safe. When you cry in front of everyone, what you portray is weakness. The only tears allowed are tears of victory or when your favourite team wins a trophy.
What makes you a man is not a penis. I have seen women who are more manly than men. What makes them manly is their actions and the amount of pain and suffering they are able to withstand while putting up a brave front. One of them is mama Winnie Mandela, another is Funmilayo Kuti.
Years in solitary confinement, raiding, banishment were not enough to dampen mama’s spirit. Funmilayo stood where men stood and spoke where men spoke and fought where men fought. They were suffering too. They had to be suffering. They are humans.
But they never allowed their spirits to be broken. Their children never doubted their safety around them and they raised warriors. I hope men can learn from these women and many more.
Nobody appreciates your public show of weakness. They might pretend to but at the end of the day, our primordial instincts kick in. Women want to be protected, need to be protected. Weak men can’t do that and natural selection means the men who can’t do these die without procreating because no woman finds them attractive enough.
Same goes for the men who are rapists, these days they say rape is a show of power, it is about power and all that nonsense. That’s stupid. Rape is a show of weakness, there’s no bigger weakling than a rapist.
It shows you can’t get the one you want to want you. They don’t want you because you’re weak. Nobody wants weak men. This is why i support abortion for rape victims. We don’t need that DNA being recreated. Natural selection dictates weaklings are whittled out. Your DNA is useless.
Strong men do not rape, they attract and make whoever they want want them. Rapists are sons of rapist fathers who were offsprings of rapist fore fathers whose DNA should have been cut short a long time ago.
Toxic men take pride in providing, they take maximum pride in protecting. That’s basically it as a man.
Everything that’s in your way of doing those things whether they are implicit or explicit have to be cut out.
Our fathers were not bad people for not being available because they had to work odd hours in order to provide. Having a cloth on your back, a shelter and food on your table is a testament of your father’s love. You think he didn’t want to chill too and be useless?
It’s easier to be useless, but your loved ones suffer for it.
We have it better than them. Nowadays our women work, now you’re not the sole provider unlike our fore fathers, things keep evolving and roles keep getting shuffled. Now you can afford to spend more time with your loved ones because you can depend on your partner to pull her financial weight. So asides from protecting, now you actually have to be available.
All the free time you’re getting from not having to do all the work has to go back to your family, now you have more time to spend at home and impart your children instead of leaving the mother to do all the work of shaping them which i think was what resulted in the over feminisation of men.
You can actually add the balance and make sure your children do not grow up to be weaklings who will become rapists when they can’t attract a mate.
This is long enough. But with this small platform i have, I’ll bring more toxic masculine contents to you. Let’s say.
tbc… for now.
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