Love is a drug. This is why people always make bad decisions when they are in love, as it is with any other drug. It alters the chemical makeup of the brain to be with a lover. But that feeling doesn’t last forever and your brain won’t always pump you full of the same feel good chemicals.
This is when some people start thinking maybe they don’t love this person after all. But I think as long as the person doesn’t do anything so vile so terrible that it changes your view of them. You probably never stopped loving them. Your brain just got used to them.
This is why couples need to find new things to love about eachother everytime which is no mean feat. But lovers have to try regardless. This is why spending time, an open line of communication and being able to be be another person for the same person matters a lot.
It’s normal really. Whatever you do consistently, you start finding it boring. A footballer could be at the top of his career, winning trophies with the same club and people will get surprised when he says he’s looking for a new challenge. His old environment has become stale he needs to find something that gets his heart pumping again.
It’s the same with love. Like it or not, relationships gets boring. And that’s when partners have to get creative. Try to surprise your partner, try other ways of being intimate.
Role playing, having foreplay and no intercourse for a few weeks, watching movies in your intimates alone, spending time being apart, re-enacting your old dates are a few suggestions. All these too will get boring and you’ll have to find new ways of being excited by eachother.
That’s why it is so hard to be in love with the same person for years. But if it was easy, it wouldn’t be special right?
To everyone who is married at the moment. I say, happy married life. For those of us looking forward to it, all the best.
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