Instead of “The Who Cooks” conversation If I may advice my dear young couples to discuss:
How to manage all incomes, create incomes, savings, how to pay bills, percentage of income can be used to help extended family, financial goals, health and life insurance, kids educational funds.
Beliefs and values, where and how you worship, what religion children (if any) will be raised in (That is if you don’t fellowship in the same church or are of different religions)
How you address issues and conflicts, what are the other persons triggers, what are your deal breakers, set your boundaries from the start.
How to manage in laws, present a united front even if you don’t agree with everything. Compromise and boundaries are a huge part of keeping a healthy in law relationship. Discuss parenting style, how you want your kids raised.
Allocate duties even if you need to outsource some things. Ladies try to put a personal touch, even if you have someone else cook, perhaps serve your husband. Both need to do things to help lighten the load and make each other feel valued.
6. Protect your marriage, try to be careful who discuss issues with. Don’t say or do things you can’t take back. Apologize when you are wrong, pride is a destroyer. Remember no marriage is perfect, never compare yours with others. We all make mistakes.
Marriage is hard work, every day. It is a marathon not a sprint, don’t commit if you are not ready to put in the work.
Life is not simple. Life in itself is complicated. And things that give you the best values don’t come easy. It is the way of things.
People who are in happy relationships are deliberate about it. They work towards it. And, for me, communication is the most important element.
Finally, Take time to learn and fulfils each others needs most importantly about issues that bothers on intimacy. This bonds you together in a more intimate way. Do not be afraid to have these discussions.
Shared By: Gesare Chife