Yes, definitely Yes! I blocked myself from the one I truly love with all my heart and stayed out of her life for I want her to be happy and not sad or guilty any day.
Back then, I used to go out of my way to love her. Now, I went out of her way and life to love her even more.
When I realized that I still love her and she doesn’t have any feelings for me, I decided to LET HER GO and I started staying away from her. It has been more than five years now and I still love her, but staying away.
If you love them truly and genuinely care for them and all they need is some space, away from you, for now or forever, you will stay away. You will try your best staying away to get them back, but you will be happy for them and their happiness with or without you in their life, for you love them truly.
When I saw her feeling bad and guilty, I decided to stay away from her. I will continue to love her silently but don’t want to be close to her until she feels the same way or she gets married to the person she will love in the future. My love for her wouldn’t change and it is unconditional.
Love is always unconditional. There is no past tense in love. Will always care for her and her happiness. What else would I need other than seeing her happy? I want that in my life. But if she is happy with someone else, it will sting me every single time to see her with someone else but I will still wish her to be happy.
Above all, true love is selfless and wishing the best for the one you love. If it is meant to happen it will happen someday. Till then love in silence is way better. The heart always wants what it wants.
It hurts. It hurts real bad. It stings. There is a pang in your heart every single time you think about them. You care for them that much and you love them that much. You experienced pinnacle of happiness when you were with them, and now when they leave, you experience nadir of sadness. It really hurts because you still care and you will care, even though they are with you or not. Your heart will still care.
But just remember it wasn’t easy for them to let you go as well. Sometimes they leave because they can’t see you sad. She left me that way and I completely get her view on this. She cared for me as a real friend and I love her even more. It stings me and I feel how much it would have hurt her too. She asked me to stay away for I can move on, little did she know that she was the one whom I genuinely love after my parents. I am still staying away for I want her to be happy. To be guilt free. I can’t see her sad any day.
We all know how much it stings us because we experience it. But we all should know how much it would hurt them too. I really care about her and her happiness still. That is what love and care is all about. If it was just distance and time that would make someone unlove, then love would be an easy thing. It isn’t. True love will never fade. It still stings but there is s sweetness in that pain and tears are more sweeter.
May be I love her way too much and pushed her away, but it is the only way I know to love her, because she still means the whole world to me. I really have that hope that she is happy and if at all she comes back, she will still be the only princess in my life. If at all everyday in life wanted to ask: “would you like to save today’s changes?” World would be an awesome place. But that’s what life is all about. We all make mistakes and we learn.
Give it time. Plenty of time. Love yourself meanwhile.
Honest answer is we can’t make it disappear completely. We just have to learn to live with that pain. The heart always wants what it wants, the problem is to silence the mind!
If you love her/him truly, then it is really difficult to get over her/him and get over that love. There is no easy way to unlove a person and it is not a cake walk. Accept that your feelings for her/him are true, deep and real and acknowledge and feel that emotion. Feel that love and also feel that pain completely.
Then wish her/him well and try to stay away for you want her/him to be happy, if you truly love her/him. Don’t fake your feelings. Cry if you want to, get angry if you want to, but process all those emotions fully. Time may lessen the pain. Have this in mind that you will never be completely over her/him, but you will have to start to learn to live with it.
I can completely empathize with you and I know that pain as I have been going through the same for more than five long years. It is tough. But in my case, I want her to be happy even if it doesn’t involve being with me. Love is about wanting the other to be happy, not about possession. My two cents.
You never heal completely from breaking up with your true love especially if you still love them and they were the one who initiated the breakup and left. You will only learn to live with that pain with time.
The heart always wants what it wants. The problem is to silence the mind. Accept that unrequited love is really painful. Move on for now and if it is true and meant to be, it will definitely be someday.
Sometimes we don’t get closure all the time and it is not required either. We just have to learn to live with that pain.
It was two long years after she asked me to stay away from her. February 12th, 2016, Fate or coincidence, we both met each other again at a restaurant on the same day I proposed her, two years back in 2014. Not as strangers again, this time with memories.
I stood frozen as I was so happy to see her again with our mutual friends. She couldn’t look at me as she was probably feeling guilty and overwhelmed or because she was indifferent. Emotions ruled the scene. All the Worlds a stage and both of us were the leads in the play called LIFE. I composed my thoughts, gathered up the courage and shook hands with her and told a “hi” smiling outside, but weeping inside.
The moment where I guided her hair behind her ears in the latest picture of hers flashed in my mind and all those emotions of love and togetherness preoccupied my mind. All she could think was “I know how much you are hurt and I don’t know what am I going to do to make up for it”. Our minds spoke these words and the other person exactly deciphered the other’s thoughts.
And we both left saying a “Hi”, still hoping that the other should be happy. Sometimes silence speaks a thousand words, with more deep meaning. Words take back stage. Love is much more than just a feeling.
True Love waits with patience, but sometimes true love alone is not enough. There is no past tense in love. You always will love. May be the heart will try to heal and learn to live with that pain, the biggest problem is to silence the mind and move on. If it is meant to be, it will be someday. Only time and Destiny can answer.
Unrequited love is really painful. Especially if your feelings are genuine and you love him/her to the truest of your senses. It kills you everyday to realize that he/she doesn’t love you back yet. And worse is getting ignored. But the thing about love is, it is always unconditional. You love him/her because you want to, not because you want him/her to love you back. That’s what love is all about. Just be true to your feelings and try to stay away from him/her in order to avoid the pain.
Unrequited love is one of the most painful things we can ever experience. It’s not even like getting over a dead person. Getting over someone you love truly is an extremely difficult task. Someday your heart will learn to live with it. It may not completely move on, but it will try to heal and live with it.
MOVE ON AND STAY AWAY BEFORE YOU ARE MISUNDERSTOOD. IT HURTS MORE.
Care is sometimes misunderstood as pestering. Love is sometimes misunderstood as pestering. Not moving on is sometimes misunderstood as weakness.
Not letting go is sometimes misunderstood as stubbornness.
Take care and learn to live with that pain. It will get better with time.
Credit – Prasanna Venkatesh