Negative people are around us, they love bringing others down. Maybe it’s a relative,friend or a colleague but real life includes people who ridicule your optimism because they don’t have dreams of their own.
Negativity is and can be contagious, and if you don’t take action to protect your mindset, you may find your mood infected.
If you can spot the warning signs and avoid them, it will pay handsome dividends.
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Here are 4 ways to deal with negative people:
1. Use negative people for growth
If someone is being argumentative, use it as a chance to practice non-reactivity. If someone is criticizing you, use it as an opportunity to practice your perspective-taking skills. If someone is acting out in unawareness, use it as a chance to practice compassion. If someone is being unreasonable, use it as a chance to practice tolerance.
2. Visualize negativity as a beam of white light
When triggered by negativity — someone creating drama out of nothing for example — visualize this energy as a beam of white light coming towards you. Instead of it crashing against you, however, picture the light flowing through you, without making an impact. You can also visualize the light glowing brighter as it floods your body, and then watch it dissipate as it goes out the other side.
This is a powerful technique, robbing difficult people of their ability to unsettle you with their negative energy.
3. Stop pulling the trigger
If you keep getting triggered by difficult people, stop putting yourself in the firing line. If a negative conversation starts, remove yourself from the situation. If you have difficult friends, replace them with like-minded ones. If you work with difficult people, ask to be moved to another area, or simply don’t engage.
Difficult people thrive on negativity, so stop pulling the trigger. When you stop rewarding it, they’ll seek it elsewhere.
You can’t always avoid difficult people, especially when it comes to family and close friends. When this is the case, you need to accept it completely, at least until you can make changes. This is important because you’ll only suffer if you resist what you cannot change.
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Don’t get acceptance confused with giving up, however. Acceptance isn’t passive. It’s often the first step towards corrective action. But in the moment, you accept the facts, no matter what.
Credit: Brian Pennie